[00:00:00] Welcome to the average nineties GAL podcast. Join me as I share my own journeys through life, how I got and continue to get through them, as well as real stories from real people in this crazy world. Let's get through it together.
Tell me what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? That is one of my favorite quotes from the poet Mary Oliver, who I absolutely love and. If you have not read any of her poems, I highly encourage you to do so because she is just wonderful. And I've been thinking about this line for the past couple of weeks because recently [00:01:00] I unfortunately had to go to a memorial service, and that memorial service was for someone who was only 42 years old.
He left behind two daughters. And one of my best friends who was his girlfriend, and at the memorial, the one theme that kept being repeated every time someone grabbed the microphone and spoke about him was the first one was how amazing he was as a person, how much he loved his family and his friends, and how he would drop everything.
And do anything for the people in his life. And then the second was how much they hoped that he knew, how much he was loved and that he knew how appreciated he was. And that really hit me later on [00:02:00] when I thought about it. I thought, wow, almost every single person said. The exact same thing in a different way.
They all told different stories, but all of them said that they hope he knew and how wonderful he was. So it made me reflect on the cliche that life really is short. Life is too short to not tell the people in our lives how much they mean to us. And yes, life is too short. To sit on the things that we want to do to sit on our dreams and to wait on our dreams and to just not do it.
And I know I sound like a broken record because I say this all the time, to just do it, to figure out a way to do the things that you want to do with your life, [00:03:00] because yes, life is too short. And if anything shows us that it is a memorial service of someone who was gone way too soon. So in this episode, all I'm saying is because of that.
When was the last time you reached out to someone you care about and just told them how much you care about them, how much you appreciate them? That you thank them for something that they did for you, that you thank them for being in your life, that you really hold them in high esteem, that you love them, and hey that you have a crush on them.
Is there someone you have a crush on who you've never told or you love someone and you've never told them that you love them? I am inviting you [00:04:00] to in these next days, weeks, months, from the time you hear this, to always reach out to the people in your life who mean something to you, and to tell them, or just say, hi, how are you doing?
Then tell them, Hey, you know that time that you did this thing for me. I just wanna make sure you understand what that meant to me and how much you mean to me and how much I love having you in my life. Because you do not know how much that person is going to appreciate hearing that, and it is going to make them feel so good.
And then how good you are going to feel when you send that. And if it's something that you feel uncomfortable sending to someone actually sending to your crush, for instance, just say it. Say it out into the universe. [00:05:00] Just say it out loud. You don't even have to say it to the person necessarily if it's something that you really don't feel comfortable doing, or if it's someone who is no longer in your life.
And maybe that is actually a good thing, but maybe that person. You never told them something that you always wanted to tell them. And I don't mean just someone who's passed away, but we do have people who are no longer in our lives for whatever reason. And that's okay. But sometimes we do just need to say things out loud.
And on that note, if there's anyone out there who has brought you pain, who has done you wrong? I would say too, send it out into the universe that you say, thank you for doing that. And yes, that may be really, really difficult to say, but let me tell you that [00:06:00] when you just send it out, out into the universe, thank you for doing that because now I'm a stronger person.
Thank you for being in my life because now I know the red flags. Now I know not to settle. Now I know what to do when someone treats me this way. Thank you. You gave me a gift because if you weren't in my life, I would still have these exact same patterns. I would still be doing the same thing. I would still be falling for the wrong person.
I would still be letting people walk all over me. I, I'm just throwing different things out there. This isn't totally specific to me, by the way, but I am saying it can be really tough to do and you do not need to say it to that person in a text or. Any way at all. But to send that out there and say it out loud or in your head because it will make [00:07:00] you feel so much better because you have the power.
The power is on you to say thank you for that, and you're letting that person go. But I don't wanna focus on the negative necessarily, but it is very cathartic to do that by the way. So that's a little side note, but I would love to get back into the positive and the positive people in our life and making sure that you are just reaching out to the people in your life and that you are not holding back, that you're taking the risk, that you're going for it, that you're telling people, I care about you and I'm glad you're in my life.
Thank you. Even if it's just that, even if it's just a text, even if the person never responds, it doesn't matter. And once again, they may need to hear that right in that moment. If I have to go to a memorial service again, I really want to hear. I'm so [00:08:00] glad that they knew they were loved and appreciated and how important they were in our lives.
They knew it and they knew the impact that they had on our lives. That is what I want to hear when I have to go to a memorial service. So once again, do the thing. Go after your dreams, something that's been harping on you, that you've been wanting to do. This is your invitation to do it and to reach out to the people in your lives.
Tell the people in your life how important they are and start today. Maybe every day, think of someone who you either have not heard from in a while and just saying, Hey, how are you? And then every day, think of someone that you can just reach out to and [00:09:00] say something positive to them and what they have done for you and for your life.
It is never too late, but life is too short to wait. Huh? That rhymes. I'll say that again. It is never too late, but life is too short to wait. So once again, I'm just asking you to n not wait. Stop waiting and please reach out to the people in your lives, please. It is so important because we do not know how long we have the people in our lives.
We do not know how much longer we will know them on this earth. So I hope you start today. Start reaching out to people today. Tell people you love [00:10:00] them, appreciate them, and I will see you in the next episode. As always, thank you so much for being here. Take care.
